Updated: Nov 16, 2019
Anxiety is a natural, human response towards the unknown. Everyone understands feeling nervous from time to time, especially with new people and situations. This can be exacerbated when you're prone to these feelings.
Seeing a provider can be super nerve-wracking. You don’t know if they’re going to be pretty, because you can’t see their face in their pictures. She says she has blue eyes and a cheerful smile but she could have a witches nose, warts and all. You simply don’t know until you walk in. You’re worried you’re not going to be attracted to her, or perhaps too attracted. There’s a lot of nerves running through you. I’m here to tell you this is normal, and we feel them too upon first meeting someone.
The next hurdle is making a connection; is your chosen provider able to build rapport, can they make you feel at ease and have a good conversation with you, or is there going to be an air of awkward tension before heading to the bedroom? You might be worried about stuttering or saying something wrong or embarrassing. It’s so easy to trip over your words when you’re nervous.
The bedroom: now it’s time to undress and get intimate. Your nerves spike again; is she going to be disappointed at your less than perfect physique? Are you going to be able to perform? Is she as attractive as her pictures? What if she has a hairy bush and you’re not into that? There’s lots of factors to consider when being intimate with a new provider, and this can dampen your drive. However, grooming methods shouldn't be a deterrent.
Feeling nervous or anxious is okay. You are allowed to feel this way. I am fully aware of your worries during your time with me, and I work with you to overcome them so we can enjoy our time together.
As a provider who deals with anxiety on a daily basis, I understand these feelings. I do my best to help you relax in my company. All my sessions start with a warm greeting with me fully clothed, a beverage of your choice, and a chat on my couch. I am here to help you unwind, relax, and feel satisfied. I believe cuddles can solve all problems, so the foundation of my service is based on lots of cuddles, which naturally extends into being intimate. There's never a rush in my company, we can go at our own pace, and extend if needed.
So, how can you overcome these feelings?
Let your provider know you're nervous! They'll make an extra effort to put you at ease at the beginning of the session time. We know it can be intimidating the first time you meet us.
Take some deep breaths! Easy enough to say, harder to do. Breathe in, count to four, breathe out, count to four. Taking a moment to focus on your breathing can make a huge difference, as we tend to breathe more shallow when we're nervous, and less oxygen gets to the brain.
Coffee dates! If you're the kind of person who enjoys a solid connection before becoming intimate, I recommend booking a coffee date prior to committing to an intimate session with your chosen provider. It can ease nerves on many levels, as you get to ascertain their beauty and charm, and build a rapport with them without the pressure of performance.
Be a regular! Some clients love variety; they want to experience a whole range of different providers, and that's awesome. Others may prefer to have one or two providers who they see more often and develop deeper connections both emotionally and physically so those initial feelings of anxiety dissipate.
Providers are intimate professionals and above all, we understand.